Sunday, June 28, 2015

COMING SOON: Truth Be Told



I feel a bug in my brain....It wants me to write a story...

A story about judging someone, before you've ever met them, in person...

  • A story about accountability...
  • A story about lies and how they can affect someone's life....
  • A story about truth...presented with facts...
  • A story about "laying your cards on the table"...
  • A story about being the maker of your own bed...
  • A story that could change your mind about someone you trusted...
  • A story about human behavior, relationships and social media...



This story will have "parts" to it.....depending on how much I write, will determine the length of the story...Let me know if you think I could combine a few of these..



Potential Chapter Titles

Part 1 - In the Beginning

Part 2 - How it Came to Be

Part 3 - The Beginning of the End/What Went Wrong

Part 4 - That Pivotal Moment & Why I Couldn't Participate

Part 5 - I Re-Focused My Views

Part 6 - Since then

Part 7 - A Pattern Of Demise

Part 8- I Almost Felt Sorry Enough To Reach Out...

Part 9- What Brought it All Back To The Surface

Part 10- Where to Go From Here

Friday, June 5, 2015

I Try To See BOTH Sides of The Issue....But Then I meet Someone Like This.....

I am someone who likes to form her opinion based on the arguments presented by opposing sides. After I read both sides of the issue, I make my own determination as to which side I can morally support.
The other day, Saturday May 30th, I requested to join “Concerned Citizens Of Pickens County – THE WHOLE TRUTH”. Their group's post can be read without joining; I read some of their posts and wanted to learn more about their side. I especially like the comments from one of their member, Mr. D Bracken. I felt he was asking important questions...presented his arguments well, and was very wise when he was dealt personal attacks by some of the admins.
I have been a member of the more positive toned group, “Concerned Citizens of Pickens County” for many months now. I have spoken with Robin Miller and she has been super nice. Even when she didn't know me and I sent her random questions. Overall, I felt comfortable in going to their page....reading their posts and commenting when I wanted to.
When I sent the request to the group, “Concerned Citizens Of Pickens County – THE WHOLE TRUTH”.... I had read their terms and felt like they weren't asking weird requirements. They want to limit their group to people who live in Pickens County....Check...I live in Pickens County. They wanted truthful people to join.....check...I am sometimes TOO TRUTHFUL...

After a few hours, I was messaged by Johnnelle Raines. In her message, it contained a standard message that was most likely copy/pasted and sent to all who request to join...Here's the message...A message to those who request membership in this group - Because the issues discussed are Pickens County issues, we try to limit the membership to people who actually live in the County. If you request membership, and the admins are not able to see that you live in the county, we will message you privately. If you do not respond, in a reasonable time-frame, we will conclude you do not live here.”
Pretty simple, right? So, I thought that if my privacy settings were too private, I thought I should send her a reply stating my personal connection to Pickens County. I sent her this reply....
Yes I live in Pickens County... My Dad is the former Pickens County Administrator... I live in Liberty...
My mother taught for 35 years.. At DWD when she retired.”
I thought that my reply was pretty self explanatory...and It clearly stated how I am connected. The discussion would have ended there...or so I thought. Nope...Instead, I was sent this message by Ms. Raines.....Note the escalated hostility....
I have heard from several sources that you are the author of a several pages that are inconsistent with our mission of exposing the truth. Could you please share the face book pages you are author of or belong to?”

At this point, I was starting to regret my request to join her group...I met the requirements prior to sending my request....So, I replied with another simple message....
I own a photography business... That's the only page that I am the author of.. Search (my business name)... Gray and Black logo. How is a photography business inconsistent with the truth when pictures don't lie?”
I thought that my reply was a simple one...I do own a photography studio...I obviously run the Facebook page associated with it....So, I went back and re-read their requirements...Yep, I still qualified....but not to her satisfaction. On the day I requested to join, I was finishing up a newborn photo-shoot and was in the process of driving back to Liberty. Since Ms. Raines wanted me to send her links to my page, I sent her a picture looking through my windshield...to give her a valid reason why I could not send her links to my page. I always pull over when I feel I need to reply to something....I don't see how anyone can text and drive....Turning on my blinker is sometimes a challenge in itself...

Along with the picture of the road I was traveling, I sent her a message in case she did not understand why I sent her a picture of a random road...lol
Should you need a valid reason as to why I can't copy and paste the link to my business page, I thought I would show you that I am driving =)”
Not unreasonable......right?
Sunday, May 31st, 9am Ms. Raines sent me this message...
There are 3 administrators of our page and we will discuss this and get back to you.”
Ok....not a problem....I understand...I think....lol
Well it has been proven YOU LIE...You are the author of a page called Help Liberty grow...so I don't think we want people who blatantly lie by saying "That's the only page that I am author of." So We here at CCPCWT won't be accepting your request.”

Wait? What? I thought I had read the rules.....Pickens County resident...and they wanted truth....Got it... I replied with another message and I was honestly taken-aback by her hostility and yelling capital letters....I must have missed something again.....(Seriously regretting this request...)
That's been given to my parents.. But you now need to change your description of your group... It states that you just have to be a resident of Pickens County to join... Who's lying madam?”
Since I work almost everyday, coupled with the fact that I had not thought about that page since I signed it over/gave it to my parents back in March of 2015! I told the truth...My parent rarely get on Facebook...my Dad HATES technology and he refuses to give up his circa 2001 flip-phone...LOL 
I am now at the point of beating my head against a wall.....asking myself the following questions...
How in the world do you manage to find such difficult people on Facebook?? Requesting to join this page MUST be some form of punishment.....Good job, Katie.....Seriously!!”
I should have just left it at that and walked away....But, me being me.....I sent her this reply...
And my soul purpose of wanting to join your little group was to read both sides of what's going on so that I have a clear understanding of what both sides say... Now I can clearly see that you and the other admins have something to hide... I joined the other group with no problems... Thanks for making this easy for me to decide which side of the fence I belong on......”
See? I told her my soul purpose for my request...I was honest about my intentions...I implore everyone to know both sides of any issue before making a decision...However, I now believe that getting a mammogram is less painful than my simple request to join Ms. Raines group. When juries make their decisions, they see both sides before they render their verdict....Same principle should be applicable to this subject....right? Apparently...NOT!
Ms. Raines sent me this final message...
Opening statement of our page..."We here at Concerned Citizens of Pickens County the Whole Truth want Pickens County Concerned Citizens to have access to the TRUTH about Politics in Pickens County" and the final statement... " This page will be RESPECTFUL and will NOT TOLERATE lies. Our motto is the "truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth." 
At this point, I was already over the fence and running towards Robin Miller and her calm, peaceful and non-hostile group....


My last reply to her.....
No need to explain the hostility.. I get it.”
Whew! That was beyond anything I have ever encountered on Facebook.....
 (Except for that lunatic Smith...weird but true; he reminds me of Jeffrey Dahmer).....
Someone needs a hug....or some happiness....WOW!
So, with all that being said, I want to thank Robin Miller for making all of us here feel as though we're safe from people like that. The fact that a SDPC board member surrounds himself with folks like this....makes me very thankful that they are ELECTED officials!
I guess the gist of this entire post....STAY AWAY FROM THE CRAZIES! 

( It should be noted that The SDPC board members who hang out with people like this....should speak VOLUMES! Saitta should take a long hard look at his behavior, the "friends" he commonly slums with and realize that he should be a reflection of the people.....not one who hangs out with, as one SDPC board members told me....."She is a complete nutcase...She's got some issues...and is to be avoided!!" After my interaction with her.....I think the board member was right on the money!)

 I also forgot to mention, that I run a photographic history page, a parents page and a real estate page on Facebook.....2 blogs.....This one and one called "Linthead Tales".....in honor of my Papa! Yeah.....all those pages/blogs make me look super suspicious.....LOL Stupid Sheep!


Monday, February 23, 2015

When Dating a Tweed, There Are Some Things YOU Should Know!...And Things You Shouldn't!


I was known as Dragon...


He was known as Death....
     





                 I won’t bore you with the story of how Tweed and I met. We think circa 2001/2000?? We’re old and forget shit! If you’re lucky enough to remain in his life, I am sure sooner or later, you’ll hear it from him. Or I may visit one day and you’ll hear all about the invention of trolling. Tweed and I invented that art…no matter what kids these days are claiming…





 
 Before I give you some insight on Tweed, let’s just clear the air about who I am. Just in case you pull out the “Jealous-Threatened-Wounded-“Pick me over her or I will leave you”-emotional-tears-hormonal-twisted-sense of female fuckery” card… No matter what…Don’t start that type of bullshit… Don’t be a dick.
Don't be a jealous girlfriend...it doesn't end well....for YOU!

 If you ever question my intentions, I can guarantee you, you’ve got it all wrong. Pulling out that card, just simply means that you have some inner issues that you need to work on. Jealousy tends to fuck-up relationships…DON’T FUCK IT UP!

I get it…you’re his woman…he’s your man/boyfriend/fuck-o-da-month…Whatever he is to you and you to him I get it!! Girls CAN be friends with men… I have always had more male friends than female friends. I am not like typical/predictable women you’ve come accustomed to…I am Tweed in female form.

I have stood beside Tweed through some pretty shitty life experiences….Through some middle of the night phone calls and text messages…or just as a person to vent/yell/complain to. I am his “go-to” female friend….and I have no plans on changing that.  I am direct, quiet, shy, opinionated, brutally honest (…I give no fucks if I make you cry), foul-mouthed, twisted, morbid, sweet, squeezably-soft, non-politically correct female you will ever have the pleasure of meeting…. If you ever have an issue with me ( I dunno why you would)…deal with me directly…
I am there...always...

So…now that we’ve exchanged pleasantries….Tweed….











                                    First off, if you are looking for a “project” or “I can fix/change him” relationship…you’ve come to the wrong game show. He’s a human being not some fucking Yorkie, that you can buy cute bows and hats for. Gradual changes or modifications are best. If you come at him like a Japanese tsunami…it’s not going to work… There is no “fixing” needed….What you see is what you get. If you try and “fix” him you should start with that previous wench he had. Go fix that piece of shit…

Walks like a duck..quacks like a duck...
A turtle only comes out of their shell....with trust...

 Tweed is like a turtle….he likes his shell...He’ll come balls-out when he’s ready...(ugh..what a mental picture). There is nothing you can do that would speed up that process…but if you are strong enough to stick around…the payoff will be utter happiness.







      Tweed is loyal to those he loves and cares about…not your usual run-of-the-mill kind of loyal…the “Until Your Last Fucking Breath” kind of loyal. He is weirdly spontaneous and unpredictable…think of ADHD…and then stir in a 50 cal…but bear with him…It’s a personality trait that will never cease…and it is so fucking FUN! 
Spontaneous! ALWAYS!





 


















          Tweed isn’t wishy-washy about the people or things he devotes himself to….He’ll either go all in…or he’ll walk away. If he has chosen to go all in for you…you should feel damn lucky…He’s welcomed you into a part of him that not many people get to see. Don’t fuck it up.

He's NOT being mean...just honest!
He’s brutally honest and expects the same out of you…no matter how much it hurts….BE HONEST. He doesn’t cheat. If you ever cheat on him, a Jacuzzi filled with muriatic acid awaits you. If you can’t control your vagina…walk-the-fuck-away… Don’t put yourself in a situation that “looks wrong”… 






 If you are with him…then you should act as if you’re ALWAYS with him…He would do the same. If you want to break-up with him…don’t use your vagina to make it easier on him…If you do that…you are a fucking shit-stain-in-a-homeless-mans-unwashed-taint-rubbed-worn for 7 years-underwear. You should take one of those sporks from KFC and decapitate yourself.
Free...Take One!


If you get a ring...
Tweed doesn’t fall in love gradually…he dives in that shit like the best alcohol on Earth. If you eventually find yourself in the “Holy fuck I might move in with him” OR the “Holy fuck I want to marry this bastard”….Make sure that you are ALL IN! Accepting the key/ring doesn’t always equate to permanency….but it should….unless he royally fucks up…then leave. But…he won’t fuck it up…I promise you.



If you get keys....










 I hate to lay a big pile of steaming shit on your lap….but if anybody will fuck the permanency thing up….YOU will! Yep….That’s right. If you feel like you don’t want to go through with things….just talk…but for fucks sake…Don’t go tossing your labia around like an Italian playing soccer! Leave….take your shit and go….leave the key/ring somewhere he can find it….and go.

Let’s talk about the physicality of his potential mate. Before you think that he is a shallow bastard....maybe..but most men are! He's not. He just loves the female form.....boobs...ass...face...He loves the beauty of women!

You’ve got to be physically fit…be it that bullshit yoga...spinning...running…whatever. Tweed needs a woman who takes care of herself…Yes, there will be times where you can flop around on the couch but, Tweed isn’t someone who will allow laziness to win and become unfit. He has always taken good care of himself. Sure, he drinks…he eats caveman meals…but he balances that with keeping tabs on his health! Wear some make-up…SOME. You don’t want to put on a fa├žade when dating him….and you don’t want his friends to think you’re a paid escort…Less is more! Be comfortable with who you are as a person. Make-up can hide things but, Tweed also love the confidence you have when you don’t wear any make-up at all and are completely confident in doing so!

If you need an example of what NOT to look like…Come see me. I’ll get naked for you so you can see what he doesn’t like. HA! See that? I am confident enough to say that about myself. I know that he would gag if he ever saw me naked…but then we’d probably piss ourselves laughing and saying some really raunchy shit! That’s just us. I get him…he gets me.
Guess who....Nah....but...yeah...

My role in all this??…Trying to prevent you from fucking anything that involves him, up. If he’s cool with you...then I am. I support his choices no matter who he winds up with. I want to like you...I do. But you have to understand that I will be skeptical of you….at first…I want to like/love you as much (but in a different way) as he does…. 

He deserves to be HAPPY…content…taken care of… I would love to see him with someone like you…settled down..(no clue what THAT means)..married…and wee babes in the uterus.  

After reading all of this, you may feel like you could never be like the woman I describe….Don’t feel like that. If you have made it this far without fucking it up…then be in it 1,000,000%! I promise you…he is the one male on Earth that would bring you the stars if you asked him to.
 
Just tell him which stars you want.....
Just love him. Just be yourself. Just be honest. Just be genuine! Just hang the fuck on because you will have so much fun….and MANY laughs!

Monday, January 12, 2015

Want to Increase Homicide Rates? Keep Saying These Phrases!

Just say it...
A couple of common phrases that you should never say to anyone..

( This has never been said to me..,BUT I am sure that some of you have thought about saying to me... ;) )


The 1st thing I dislike to hear people say "Oh, grow up! Stop being so juvenile!" 

I am almost 40.

 I have a foul/morbid/masochistic-potty-mouthed sense of humor and a wicked tongue to boot! Believe it or not, I can also play the part of a controlled-mild mannered lady...


 (MANY thanks to Mom and Dad!)

I will never grow up...and being juvenile has always rewarded to me, by  making laughter, a daily/hourly part of my life.... (Some of you can't say that..)

Ask anyone who has ever known me,can attest to the fact, that other than my physical aging, I am still the same person they've known for all these years!

So, if you're one of those people who are playing the role of "mature adults"...We have nothing to say to each other..

If I don't like you, I'll let you know....by saying something like this:

 "Don't talk to me...I'm not nice!"


⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆⬆ I actually said that to a man at the DMV...There were 30 unoccupied chairs that he could have picked from... He chose to sit right next to me :/ ..His breath..and lack of teeth...made my stomach turn...It was a life or death scenario!
GIFSoup



The second thing I hate to hear:

"You have such a pretty face..!" 




When I hear someone say that...I always interpret it to mean.. "You have a pretty face but the rest of you looks like hammered cat shit!"  OR "Your face is doable... takes the focus off of the rest of your body!"

If you say that to someone...you're an asshole...!! Don't fret yourselves..because.....






Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Assumptions: The Death of Closeness

Ya know what I find sad? And before I get started… The answer to your question….Yes, I know I should never assume where I stand with people. 
Wow...just....wow....

Sadness to me is when you think you have a close/best-friend and you realize, via Facebook, that you really are of no consequence to that person.


Things I would have done for that person….gone. Sacrifices I would have made…gone. Telling them things you would’ve never uttered…..nevermore. Random phone calls….nope. Just all of the normal things any of you would do for your close/best-friend…down the drain. The saved up hugs...(because I don’t hug just anyone..)…GONE!
No Looking Back At Once Was....

Close/best-friends, especially one’s you’ve held onto for numerous years are very rare and seldom happen in a lifetime….It’s as if you have to mourn that person, in some fashion, to be “OK” with knowing you’ve been discounted.

The proverbial walls that you had bulldozed down for them, seem to be in desperate need of repair…


Makes me wonder if I REALLY know, just where I stand with anyone I feel close to…


I am hard to get close to…I am hard to understand sometimes…I am hard to get to know when you first meet me in person….

 

For example, if I were to meet someone for the first time, I am very quiet…reserved….polite… (My mother raised me right…LOL)...watching the room and the other people who occupy the same space...


I think...no, I KNOW that I am like this because it is a defense mechanism for me. If I protect myself from the get-go, then I am more likely to be OK, later on.

 

I am "feeling", YOU,  the new acquaintance out... I am watching your posturing, eye movement/eye contact, body language, speech patterns.... and I am watching the other people in the room too....ALL at once. Must be a benefit to having ADHD...

No problem here....just checking you out...


The death of closeness is not a permanent state of emotional mourning. For me, it usually lasts between 12-24 hours...and then I am done. Nothing but idle chit-chat and polite smiles from then on out...AND knowing that I have lost a confidant...the ear I needed to bend....the person I could vent to....the unjudging comments and advice giving will not occur from this point forward....


Have you ever experienced this? Do you understand how this feels? Are you guilty of doing this??